--- title: "RSVP by text message wording: 14 templates for hosts" description: "How to ask guests to RSVP by text: 14 wording templates by tone and event, a three-step reminder sequence, and what to print on the card." canonical: https://ueventi.com/blog/rsvp-by-text-message-wording last-updated: 2026-10-31 --- Tips·Oct 31, 2026·8 min read # RSVP by text message wording: 14 templates for hosts How to ask guests to RSVP by text: 14 wording templates by tone and event, a three-step reminder sequence, and what to print on the card. ![Dvir Atias](/authors/dvir-atias.jpg) Dvir Atias Founder On this page - [The four parts of an RSVP text](#the-four-parts-of-an-rsvp-text) - [Wording by tone](#wording-by-tone) - [Wording by event type](#wording-by-event-type) - [A three-step reminder sequence](#a-three-step-reminder-sequence) - [The “RSVP by text to 555-0100” line on printed cards](#the-rsvp-by-text-to-555-0100-line-on-printed-cards) - [Mistakes that cost replies](#mistakes-that-cost-replies) - [Frequently asked questions](#faq) Good RSVP by text wording does three things in under four lines: it says what the event is and when, it asks for a clear yes or no by a specific date, and it tells the guest exactly how to answer, whether that is a reply to this message, a tap on a button or a text to the number on the card. Below are fourteen templates by tone and by event type, a three-message reminder sequence for the guests who go quiet, and the wording for the “RSVP by text to” line on a printed invitation. If you are a guest trying to answer an invitation, you want [how to RSVP by text](/blog/how-to-rsvp-by-text) instead. This guide is for the person sending. ## The four parts of an RSVP text - **Who and what.** Your name, or the couple’s names, and the event in a few words. Guests skim, so put this first. - **When and where.** Date, time and the venue or city. If the details live on an event website, one line here and the link is enough. - **The ask and the deadline.** “Please reply yes or no by 1 August”. A date gets replies. “Let us know” gets silence. - **How to answer.** “Reply to this message”, “tap Yes or No below” or “text 555-0100”. Remove the guesswork and the reply rate climbs. One more rule: send it to each guest individually, not to a group. A personal message with a name on it gets answered. A group broadcast gets forty thumbs up and no headcount. The [RSVP by text or WhatsApp](/blog/rsvp-by-text-or-whatsapp) post goes into why. ## Wording by tone ### Formal > Maya Cohen and Daniel Levi request the pleasure of your company at their wedding on Saturday, 12 September 2026, at Quinta da Regaleira, Lisbon. Ceremony at 5 pm. Kindly reply yes or no to this message by 1 August. We look forward to celebrating with you. > You are warmly invited to a dinner marking Ruth and Michael Adler's fortieth anniversary on Saturday, 7 November 2026, at 7 pm, The Langham, Chicago. Please reply to this message with your acceptance or regrets by 10 October. ### Warm and personal > Hi Noa! Daniel and I are getting married on 12 September in Lisbon and we would love you there. All the details are on our website: ueventi.com/sites/maya-and-daniel Could you reply yes or no by 1 August so we can give the caterer a number? Thank you! > Hi Tom, it's Lena. I'm turning 40 and throwing a party on Saturday 14 March at Rooftop 25, Brooklyn, from 8 pm. Can you let me know by 1 March if you're coming? Reply yes or no to this message and I'll put you on the list. ### Short and direct > Maya and Daniel's wedding, Saturday 12 September, Lisbon, 5 pm. Please reply YES or NO by 1 August. Details: ueventi.com/sites/maya-and-daniel > Lena's 40th, Saturday 14 March, 8 pm, Rooftop 25 Brooklyn. Reply YES or NO by 1 March. Can't wait to see you. ### Playful > Hi Sam! Two questions. One, are you free on Saturday 6 June? Two, do you like cake? Lena is turning 30 and the party is at our place from 7 pm. Reply YES or NO by 20 May. Wrong answers will be noted. ## Wording by event type ### Wedding > Hi Noa, you're invited to Maya and Daniel's wedding on Saturday 12 September 2026 at Quinta da Regaleira, Lisbon. Ceremony at 5 pm, dinner and dancing to follow. Please reply yes or no by 1 August, and let us know how many of you are coming. Travel, hotels and the schedule are on ueventi.com/sites/maya-and-daniel ### Birthday > Hi Tom, Lena is turning 40 and we're celebrating on Saturday 14 March at Rooftop 25, Brooklyn, from 8 pm. Drinks and food on us. Reply yes or no by 1 March so we know how many to feed. ### Baby shower > Hi Priya, it's Lena. We're hosting a baby shower for Aisha on Sunday 19 April at 2 pm at my place, 14 Elm Road. Please reply yes or no by 10 April. No gifts needed, just you. ### Engagement party > Hi Ravi, Aisha and Omar got engaged! We're celebrating on Sunday 19 April at 6 pm at The Refinery, Manchester. Could you reply yes or no by 5 April? It would mean a lot to have you there. ### Corporate dinner > Hello Jordan, you're invited to the Northwind annual dinner on Thursday 5 November at 7 pm, The Ivy, London. Please reply yes or no by 20 October and mention any dietary requirements. Partners welcome. ### Reunion > Hi Chris, the class of 2016 is getting together on Saturday 10 October at 7 pm at O'Donoghue's, Dublin. Reply yes or no by 25 September so we can hold enough tables. Spread the word to anyone we've missed. ### Save the date, before the invitation > Save the date! Maya and Daniel are getting married on 12 September 2026 in Lisbon. No need to reply yet, the invitation with the RSVP will follow. A save the date is the one message that should not ask for an answer. More of those are on the [save the date text](/save-the-date-text) page. ## A three-step reminder sequence Most guests who do not answer the first message are not declining, they are busy. A short sequence, sent only to guests who have not replied, usually brings the rest in. Three messages are enough. Any more and the [reminders start to grate](/blog/how-many-rsvp-reminders-is-too-many). When Wording A week before the deadline Hi Noa, a quick reminder that we're collecting replies for 12 September by 1 August. Could you reply yes or no when you have a moment? On the deadline Hi Noa, today is the last day for RSVPs for Maya and Daniel's wedding. We'd love to know if you can make it. A quick yes or no is all we need. Two days after Hi Noa, we're giving final numbers to the venue tomorrow and haven't heard from you. If we don't hear back by tonight we'll assume you can't make it, but we'd love to be wrong! The important part is the filter: reminders only to the people who have not answered. A guest who said yes on day one and then gets three “have you replied?” messages stops reading your texts. The full set of reminder scripts is in [RSVP reminder wording](/blog/rsvp-reminder-wording), and if you use a tool that tracks replies, it can do the filtering and the sending for you. ## The “RSVP by text to 555-0100” line on printed cards Printed invitations still need a reply channel, and a phone number is now more common than a reply card. The wording on the card should name the channel, the number and the deadline in one line. A few versions, from formal to casual: - “Kindly reply by text to 555-0100 by the first of August.” - “RSVP by text to 555-0100 by 1 August, with the names of those attending.” - “Please text your reply to Maya at 555-0100 by 1 August.” - “Text YES or NO to 555-0100 by 1 August.” Two practical notes. First, decide whose phone the number belongs to and who will answer it, because the replies will come in at all hours for weeks, and someone has to record each one against the guest list. Second, ask for names in the line itself. A text that says “yes, we’ll be there!” from a number you do not have saved is the most common headache of RSVP by text, and the card wording can prevent it. If you would rather not run a phone number by hand, send the invitation itself as a message with reply buttons. Eventi sends [text message invitations](/text-invitations) to each guest from your guest list, over WhatsApp or SMS, with Yes, No and Not sure yet buttons under the message. Every tap lands against the right name, reminders go only to guests who have not answered, and each guest gets a personal [RSVP link](/rsvp-link) to change their answer later. The printed card can then carry the event website address instead of a phone number, and the [online RSVP](/online-rsvp) on the site catches anyone who prefers a page. Sending is $0.45 per invitation, paid once per event, and the [wedding website](/wedding-website) with its RSVP form is free. Details are on the [pricing page](/pricing). ## Mistakes that cost replies - **No deadline.** “Let us know if you can come” is read as optional. Always give a date, and make it a real one tied to when the venue needs numbers. The [RSVP deadline](/blog/wedding-rsvp-deadline) post has the maths. - **Too many questions in the first message.** Ask for yes or no first. Meal choices, song requests and shuttle seats can follow once you know who is coming. - **Group chats.** Replies get lost, guests see each other’s answers, and nobody feels personally asked. One message per guest. - **Sending from an unknown number.** If you are texting from a planner’s phone or a new SIM, sign the message with your name in the first line so it is not mistaken for spam. - **Forgetting the household.** If you invited a family, ask how many are coming. Otherwise a yes could mean one or five. For the invitation text itself, beyond the RSVP line, the [invitation messages](/invitation-messages) page has wording by occasion, and the [WhatsApp templates](/blog/whatsapp-message-templates-for-event-invitations) post has longer versions with the full details included. ## Frequently asked questions ### How do you ask for an RSVP by text? ### What is good RSVP by text wording for a wedding? ### What should the RSVP by text line on a printed invitation say? ### How many RSVP reminders should I send by text? ### Should I ask for the RSVP in a group chat? [ ← Previous How to RSVP by text: what to say, with 18 examples ](/blog/how-to-rsvp-by-text)